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The Different Military Caskets

Mon, 07 Nov 2022 00:00:00 GMT

Many families may know that military honors are available to those who have served in the armed forces, but not be aware that there are military caskets available as well. These caskets are specially designed and allotted for those men and women who have served and make a nice additional way to pay respects to these brave individuals. Whether your service takes place in a church, funeral home in Oakfield, NY, or other location, a military casket can make a meaningful impact.

What is a Military Casket?

As mentioned, military caskets are specially designed for those who served in the armed forces. Each branch of service will have a different design that is unique to itself. It is important to note that the family will have to pay for the casket, while other things, such as a headstone and military honors, can most often times be available at no cost.

Military Casket for Army Members

The Army military casket is black on the outside and includes the Army seal embossed on the headboard. The lining on the inside is also black and makes a very dramatic look and feel. With the Army being known for camouflage, many families may choose to have the casket wrapped in a camo pattern. Some families may also choose to have camo lining included in the inside as well.

Military Casket for Marine Corp Members

Marine Corp caskets will have the Marine Corp seal and normally be black on the outside with a vivid red lining on the inside. The Marine seal is featured on the headboard for open casket funerals and visitations.

Once again families may choose to have the casket wrapped in a military theme. This is a commonly chosen option when there needs to be a closed casket funeral. The wrap may include the seal, a flag, or other military designs.

Military Casket for Navy Members

Most Navy caskets will be found in a stark, crisp white color on the outside with a navy blue on the inside for the lining. This can make a very dramatic look. However, these Navy caskets can also be found in navy blue on the outside as well as the inside. In either case, the Navy seal is featured on the headboard.

Military Casket for Air Force Members

The casket for Air Force members is normally always dark blue on the outside as well as the inside. The Air Force seal is featured on the headboard. Many families may also choose to wrap the casket with additional designs such as a flag.

Final Thoughts

The brave men and women who have served in the Armed Forces deserve all the respect and honor we can muster. When they pass it is nice to know that they will be given this honor and respect. With the availability of military honors being held, as well as special caskets that are allowed just for them, there are many ways to express this admiration.

When making arrangements for your loved one with funeral home in Oakfield, NY, make sure to talk to the director about military honors and how to apply for them.

What to Do Immediately Following the Death

Mon, 24 Oct 2022 00:00:00 GMT

Even if you feel you are prepared, when a death of a loved one occurs, it can leave you feeling devasted and confused. You know things need to be handled but in a grief stricken state of mind it can be tough to know where to start. As providers of cremation services in Elba, NY we understand what a difficult time this will be. To help you know what to do and when, we have complied this list.

What to Do Immediately Following the Death

Get a Declaration of Death – The very first thing you will need to address after your loved one passes away is obtain a legal pronouncement of the death. This will be done by a doctor or other medical professional. If your loved one passed away at home, you will need to call emergency services at 9-1-1 so that they may send an ambulance to your home. They will then transport your loved one to the hospital where the declaration will be made. If your loved one was in a retirement home or assisted living facility, typically the staff will do this for you.
Notify the Family – Once you have been able to wrap your head around what has happened, you will need to notify other family members of what has occurred. This can be a very difficult phone call to make so if you are not ready you could text it in a group chat or just call one person and have that person relay the message to the other family members.

Matters to Handle in the Following Days

Plan The Arrangements – Meet with other family members as well as a funeral home and decide on things like the type of body disposition as well as what, if any services will be held . Working with your cremation provider will help you as they walk you through the process to ensure everything gets handled correctly.
Secure Your Loved One’s Property – If your loved one was in a retirement or assisted living home, you will need to collect their belongings. If they were living in their own home you will need to do things like secure the home, take any food out of the freezer and refrigerator, as well as make sure any pets are cared for. It is also a good idea to have their mail forwarded to your home so that you can start collecting bills and such to take care of.

Accounts to Handle in the Following Weeks

After your loved one’s services are over and once things begin to settle down, you will need to begin to take care of their accounts. This can include things like bank accounts, car loans, house payments, and credit cards. You will also need to cancel items such as their social security card and driver’s license.

Although it may seem overwhelming, remember that providers of cremation services in Elba, NY are here to help you. We have the experience to know what needs to be handled and when so that we can walk you through the process. You won’t have to do this alone.

Burial Clothes: Dressing the Deceased

Mon, 17 Oct 2022 00:00:00 GMT

When we think of dressing for a funeral, we often think about what we should wear as guests. However, if you have a loved one who has passed away one decision you will need to make is what they will be dressed in for the funeral. While this can be a tough decision to make when you are dealing with feelings of sadness and grief, it is one that will need to be made. Directors of funeral homes in Elba, NY share these tips to help make the process a little easier.

Think About Their Style

When selecting what to have your loved one wear, it can be easy to think about what you would like to see them in, rather than what they might like to have on. For example, maybe there was a favorite that you loved seeing them in but that they didn’t really care to wear it that much. Make sure you are choosing an outfit that reflects your loved one’s style and tastes and not yours.

Personalize the Outfit

While it may be expected for guests to the funeral to be dressed in nice, dressy clothes, this doesn’t mean your loved one has to be. If your loved one had a favorite football jersey, for example, consider that for the outfit. Maybe they had a school uniform or favorite jacket, if so, consider using these items.

Considerations About Jewelry

Although jewelry can be a beautiful accent to an outfit, you need to consider a few things about it. First, once it is buried, it is gone from the family forever. Many times families would rather keep the special piece to ensure it stays in the family for the next generation.

Also, even though something may look great on a person while standing up, some pieces do not look that nice when the body is laying down. For example, you may want to add a necklace with a pendant, but that pendant may not lie nicely and instead fall to one side making it look messy or not be able to be seen at all.

What About Undergarments?

Although undergarments will not be seen, it is always nice and suggested that you add them anyway. This ensures that your loved one is properly dressed and will be buried with the dignity and respect they deserve.

What About Shoes?

Shoes are actually not recommended. One reason for this is that they are not seen in the casket. Another reason is that they can be very difficult to put on due to the body being swollen and rigid.

Additional Tips

Keeping a few things in mind will help ensure you select the ideal outfit for your loved one. Some of these things are:

Avoid sheer or lace material that may show any sutures underneath
Tops that cover the collarbone are suggested as this area can look hollow or misshapen after death
Long sleeves are better than short dure to the skin appearing blotchy due to embalming
Consider the color of the casket lining when choosing the colors of the outfit
Select pieces that are slightly larger sue to the body possibly being swollen

Following these tips and working with the director from the funeral homes in Elba, NY, you will be able to select a flawless outfit for your loved one.

Mementos That Can Be Included in Cremation

Mon, 10 Oct 2022 00:00:00 GMT

We have probably all heard the phrase, “you can’t take it with you”. This is normally said when it comes to money and how you cannot take it with you when you pass away. While this may be true, there are certain items that you can take with you. Many people are aware that personal items may be placed in a casket with the loved one for a burial, but did you know you can also include items with your loved one’s cremation services in Batavia, NY?

While there are limitations on what you can and cannot add with a cremation, families have quite a few choices of mementos that can be included. This can bring the family great comfort in knowing they can send personal items with their loved one. Let’s look at exactly what can- and can’t- be included.

Items that Can be Included:

These items are safe and allowed to be included in the cremation process:

Soft toys such as stuffed animals
Letters – These could be old letters you had saved, or you could write a new letter to your loved one
Wooden items such as rosary beads
Pieces of special clothing
Special photographs
Flowers
Books
Some jewelry may be permitted

Items That Cannot be Included

These items are not deemed safe and are not allowed to be included in the cremation process. This is decided by the way the item may interact with the high heat or the environment once burned. If they pose any safety risk, they are not permitted. Items that are not allowed include:

Pacemakers
Bottles of alcohol
Lighters
Glass items
Materials like rubber, latex, leather, and vinyl
Glass or plastic jars or containers
Anything with a battery in it

Special Considerations

If you or your family would like to add personal items in with your loved ones’ cremation services , make sure the cremation director is aware of this before any services are decided upon. This is because if families choose what is called “direct cremation”, there may simply not be time for the family to include any items. This is because this cremation service happens very quickly with the body being cremated in a very short timeline when it arrives at the crematory.

Another factor to consider is if your loved one had any religious beliefs, you need to ensure they coincide with the cremation as well as any items that are included as well as what they are dressed in. Some religions have very specific protocol on how cremations and the body should be handled. If you are unsure about any of their beliefs, find a religious leader to talk to and answer your questions.

When meeting with the cremation director about your loved one’s cremation services in Batavia, NY., they will be able to help you decide the best type of cremation services as well as assist you in knowing what items you may be able to include. And as always, we are here to answer any questions you have so please feel free to reach out to us anytime.

Natural Burial: A Short Guide to Green Burials

Mon, 03 Oct 2022 00:00:00 GMT

While green burial services with funeral homes in Batavia, NY are not as widely chosen as traditional ground burials, they are becoming increasing popular. One of the reasons is that as people become more environmentally conscious, they are looking for ways to carry this idea over with them as they consider their end-of-life arrangements. With green burials being very eco-friendly, it makes an excellent option.

With green burials not being as popular as traditional ground burials , we are often asked many questions about this form of disposition. Today we are going to talk about what exactly a green burial is and ways you can have one.

What is a Green Burial?

The Green Burial Council defines a green burial as “a way of caring for the dead with minimal environmental impact that aids in the conservation of natural resources, reduction of carbon emissions, protection of worker health, and the restoration and/or preservation of habitat. Green burial necessitates the use of non-toxic and biodegradable materials, such as caskets, shrouds, and urns.”

How to Incorporate Green Burial Practices

There are many ways to have a total green burial or even a “hybrid” one that may just incorporate certain elements of a green burial with that of a traditional burial. One way to have a partly green burial is to forgo embalming. With many of the embalming fluids being toxic, as the body decomposes these toxins can be released into the soil. If you forgo the embalming process, or use essential oils instead of toxins, the soil will not be harmed.

Another aspect that can make a burial more green is to forgo using a grave liner. These grave liners are a vessel that the casket is placed inside of for burial. Grave liners are not biodegradable and can impede the body from decomposing. Those who wish to have a green burial might opt instead for a biodegradable casket with no grave liner.

Headstones can also be green when the family chooses a more eco-friendly marker such as a natural rock or flat marker. Some green cemeteries may not even permit markers but rather have gps coordinates of where your loved one’s grave site is located.

Are Green Burials Affordable?

Green burials can be a very affordable option. One reason is that if the family forgo things such as a grave liner or embalming services, they will not incur those expenses. Also, families may choose to purchase as less expense casket that will decompose more quickly which will also help in keeping costs low. Of course, these burials can increase in coasts the more services families choose, but overall, green burials are very affordable.

Final Thoughts

Green burials are a wonderful option for those individuals who wish to leave a small carbon footprint on the earth at their time of passing. It is also a nice way to naturally and organically be returned to the earth and soil. If you would like to know more about green burials and other services provided by funeral homes in Batavia, NY, call us today and talk with one of our experienced funeral directors.

Cremation Urn Cleaning and Care Tips

Mon, 26 Sep 2022 00:00:00 GMT

Keeping your loved one’s urn in good condition and looking like new is important. Afterall, this is a very special container that is keeping their ashes safe and secure. Keeping it looking nice shows your loved one respect and honor. Depending on the material of your urn, how you care for it may differ. Providers of urns and cremation services in Oakfield, NY share these tips how to best care for your loved one’s urn.

Glass and Ceramic Urns

Glass and ceramic urns can make for a beautiful display urn as they come in a variety of colors and designs. Unfortunately, they can be a delicate as they are beautiful. This means when you are selecting a place for your urn, you need to find a space that is secure and away from busy areas in your home. You also need to make sure it is high enough that small children and /or pets will not have an opportunity to knock it over.

Cleaning your glass or ceramic urn is simple. For a light dusting, simply use a soft dry cloth and wipe away and debris or build-up. If you need to perform a deeper clean, using a soft cloth add an all-natural, chemical- free glass cleaner and wipe down the urn. Always makes sure to use an all-natural cleaner as chemicals can damage the urn over time.

Wooden Urns

Wooden urns are a wonderful choice for families who would like an urn with a timeless design and one that is durable and study. Wooden urns can be found made from a variety of soft and hard woods. Some examples include pine, cherry, oak, walnut, and mahogany just to name a few.

Although wooden urns are resistant to breakage, they do have their weaknesses. Two of these being direct sunlight and moisture as being exposed to either of these can damage the urn over time.

To keep your wooden urn looking good, simply take a soft cloth and wipe away and dust. If there is more build-up, or to perform a routine deep clean, use a good furniture polish that is specially designed for use on wood.

Metal Urns

Metal urns can be found made from steel, bronze, copper and more. Similar to wooden urns, metal urns are resistant to breakage but do require special care. They should not be placed in direct sunlight as the heat from the sun can cause the urn to warp over time.

Cleaning your metal urn also requires some special attention, First, never use a damp cloth for cleaning as the water may cause the urn to rust. Also, be very careful not to use any harsh or abrasive cleaning solutions as they can cause scratches.

If you would like more information on how to care for your loved one’s urn after their cremation services in Oakfield, NY, you can contact the urn provider directly or give us a call as we will be able to tell you best tips for care and maintenance of the urn.

What to Bring (And Not to Bring) To a Funeral

Mon, 19 Sep 2022 00:00:00 GMT

With most of us not attending funerals very often, we can be unsure of the proper etiquette. One aspect of this is if we should bring anything to the funeral. And if we should bring something, what exactly should that something be? What you bring to the funeral will depend on your role as well as your relationship to the deceased. Directors of funeral homes in Oakfield, NY explain more.

If You Are Family

Family members will tend to provide different items for the funeral. If you are family you may be asked to help provide things such as funeral programs, photographs, memorial cards or a guest book.

Funeral programs – Funeral programs are a pamphlet that is given to guests and lists the order of services as well as other content such as the obituary and any acknowledgments the family would like to give. As a family member, you may be asked to design these, have them printed and/or bring them to the service.
Photographs and other mementos – Many families create a tribute table to display photographs as well as personal mementos of the deceased. Family members may be asked to bring something that can be included.
Memorial cards – These cards act as a funeral favor and are given to guests. They typically include a photo of the deceased as well as their birth date, date of passing and a prayer or poem. Like the funeral programs, you may be asked to design, print, and/or bring these for the service.
Guest book – You may be asked to bring the guest book. This is often placed in an area where guests can write in it as they arrive and enter the room. Guests will write their name and sometime as short message to the family.

If You Are a Guest

Typically as a guest, unless otherwise noted by the family, you do not need to bring anything. If you want to offer the grieving family flowers or a sympathy card, that should be done in the days ahead and sent directly to them. If you were not able to send anything prior, it is perfectly appropriate to send flowers or another expression of sympathy in the days immediately after the funeral. These things should not be given at the actual funeral service.

What Not to Bring

As a guest it is more important what you don’t bring to a funeral. Some of these things include:

Food or drink – Eat before you attend the funeral, not during.
Anything loud or disruptive – Make sure cell phones are silenced and any other alarms or alerts you have on any other electronics are also turned off or silenced
Young children – Young children who cannot sit still or may disrupt the service should be left at home with family or a babysitter

In Conclusion

Unless you are family, you do not need to take anything with you to services in funeral homes in Oakfield, NY. If you do wish to offer the family a small gift, donation, or flowers, those should all be given either the days before the funeral or the days immediately after, not at the services. The only thing the family is asking of you the day of the funeral is your presence.

Urn Maintenance: Is It Time for an Update?

Mon, 12 Sep 2022 00:00:00 GMT

Urns play an important role as they are the vessels that hold your loved one’s ashes after their cremation services in Elba, NY. They also serve as a small memorial as well as a visual way of remembering your loved one. But what if the urn isn’t looking so good? What if the engraving is getting difficult to read? Maybe there are cracks or it simply doesn’t match the décor of your home anymore. Many people may not think about updating their loved one’s urn, but there are many reasons you may want to consider doing just that.

Reasons to Update You Loved One’s Urn

Just like how other items may need a little updating, urns are no different. Some people may feel as if they change the urn it is somehow disrespecting their loved one, but actually it is the opposite. Making sure your loved one’s ashes are placed in an urn that is in good condition and something you are proud to display shows respect for them.

If you aren’t sure if your urn needs updating, here are some things to consider helping you decide:

Is it showing signs of damage such as cracks or chips?
Would you like to have personal identification markers on it but there is no way to add engraving?
Does it no longer matches the décor in your room or home?
Did you purchase your current urn because it was what you could afford at the time but can now afford a nicer one?
Is there an urn you found that would represent your loved one’s personality better?

Incorporating the New Urn

Once you decide to update your urn and find a new one to purchase, you are probably going to have some questions. You may wonder things like how to transfer the ashes or what to do with the old urn. Let’s look at some of these questions and more.

How do I open the urn? How you will open the urn will depend on that individual urn as they all have their own type of closure. If the closure is sealed tight, then you may need to use a solution to wash away the glue. Fingernail polish will often work in this case. With a vase style urn, many of the closures you simply unscrew. Wooden urns will most open from the bottom. Other urns may open at the bottom by twisting the stopper.
How do I transfer the ashes? You may be hesitant to update your urn due to not wanting to transfer the ashes. Despite what you may think, this is typically very easy and not messy at all. This is because most ashes are placed in a plastic bag which is placed in the urn. To transfer the ashes, simply remove this plastic bag from the old urn and place it in the new one.
What do I do with the old urn? There are many options to discard the old urn. If it has seen better days you could consider tossing it or recycling it. If it is not in too bad of shape you could repurpose it, sell it online, or donate it to a thrift store.

If you would like more information on urns for your loved one after their cremation services in Elba, NY, give us a call anytime and let one of our cremation directors assist you.

Paying Honors to Those Who Served

Mon, 05 Sep 2022 00:00:00 GMT

When we lose a loved one, we want to arrange services for them that honor and show our love and respect for them. This is especially true if they had served in the military. We want to ensure we hold services that not only express our love, but also show the highest level of respect and dignity as they spend their life protecting ours. If you have a loved one who was in the military and are making arrangements with funeral homes in Elba, NY, here are some ideas you can include to be sure they are honored properly.

Military Honors

Under the National Defense Act, those who served in the military are entitled to receive free military honors. This includes those who passed away during their active-duty service as well as veterans and those who have retired. What type of services are offered will depend on how long their military career was as well as what type of service they were in. Most all who served will receive at the minimum a flag ceremony, presentation of the flag to the family as well as the playing of Taps.

Flag ceremony – This is a process where the soldiers will fold the flag of the United States. It is folded into the shape of a triangle with the stars visible on the outside.
Presentation of the flag to the family – After the flag is folded, the representative from the military will present it to the spouse, child, parent, or next of kin and thank them for their loved one’s service.
The playing of Taps – This melody is played on a bugle or trumpet and is also called by the names “Butterfly’s Lullaby” as well as “Day is Done”.

Additional Ways to Pay Tribute

If you would like to add additional elements to honor your loved one who served, you could include some of the following ideas into their services:

Customize the Guest Book – The guest book is where those guests who attend the service write their messages they would like for the family. This is a book that often times the family will retain as a keepsake. This makes a great item to personalize for your loved one. You can do so by adding their military ribbons, covering it with fabric from their uniform or creating another special cover for it.
Create a Table Display – Create a military display using your loved one’s military mementos such as medals, achievements, and photographs to show off their time in the service.
Create a Video Display – You can also create a video tribute to be played during the service that shows their military career. Include photographs, medals, and highlights of their time served.

Final Thoughts

Those who served in the military spend their life making sure ours was safe. They deserve the highest honors we can provide. When making arrangements with funeral homes in Elba, NY, for their services, make sure you let the funeral director know they served in the military. Working together with the director you can ensure your loved one will receive the honors and tributes they deserve.

Honoring Your Loved One: How to Make a Memorial Scrapbook

Mon, 22 Aug 2022 00:00:00 GMT

Creating a memorial tribute for your loved ones after their cremation services in Batavia, NY is an excellent way to honor and remember them. There are several ways to do this from planting a tree or garden, to creating a special display area for their urn . If you would like to create a memorial tribute that also serves as a keepsake, consider making a memorial scrapbook.

What is a Memorial Scrapbook?

A memorial scrapbook is similar to a photo album in that it will include photos of your loved one. However, with a scrapbook, you can also choose to ass personal mementos as well as decorate it with embellishments.

Supplies Needed

You don’t need a lot of supplies to create your scrapbook. The only things you must have are a book and glue or tape. Other than that, if you wish to decorate the scrapbook you will need things like stickers, ribbon, fabric, ink stamps, and pretty scrapbook paper.

Designing the Inside of the Book

As mentioned earlier, your book will consist of photographs of your loved one. These photographs can be of anything you choose and can be arranged in any order you decide.

Some people may choose to create a scrapbook that begins with the deceased’s childhood and moves chronologically throughout their life highlighting important events. Other people may decide to make a themed book. An example of this could be if your loved one was an avid traveler, the scrapbook could include images of them in all the places they visited.

Other than photographs, feel free to add other elements to the book. Some of these things could be:

Ribbons
Certificates
Piece of their baby blanket
Drawings they created
Chain necklaces or other pieces of jewelry they wore

Also, if you want to include something that obviously won’t fit in the book, take a picture of the item and add that photo to the book. For example, maybe they had a car that they restored and was their “baby”, or a room full of trophies they won. You could take a picture of these things and add them to the book that way.

Designing the Outside of the Book

While some scrapbooks you purchase will already have a nice decorative cover, you may choose to customize it to make it more personal for your loved one. Some ideas for this could be:

Enlarge a favorite image of your loved one and attach it to the cover

Cover the front and back with fabric from the clothes of your loved one

Make a book cover from a drawing or painting they created

Write their name and other important information on the cover with paint pens or a calligraphy pen

Final Thoughts

Creating a memorial scrapbook is an easy and therapeutic activity after your loved one’s cremation services in Batavia, NY. It is something that can bring comfort and act as a keepsake for generations to come. It can also be a wonderful way to get several family members involved as you can create the scrapbook together as a family project.

Unique Ways to Customize Your Loved One’s Casket

Mon, 15 Aug 2022 00:00:00 GMT

Funeral services today are as unique as the loved ones they honor. One way people are choosing to show the personality of their loved ones is with the design of the casket. Today, families have an almost endless way of personalizing the casket to create a completely unique one-of-a-kind item. Directors of funeral homes in Batavia, NY share some of the ways a casket can be customized.

Keepsake Drawers

One way to make your loved one’s casket customized is by adding special personal items to it. Thanks to keepsake drawers and other (sometimes secret) compartments, that is now possible. These drawers are designed as part of the casket and can be found on the exterior or interior. Families can use these compartments to add things like photos, journals, awards, or any other memorabilia in these special spaces.

Add a Photo to the Casket

Rather than keeping a photo in the casket, you can actually put one on the casket. In today’s world with digital software, it is possible to apply a photo or picture of just about anything to the casket exterior.

Some families may choose to add a picture of a symbol such as a cross or a flag, while others may choose a collage of family photos to have applied. Just about anything the family can imagine can be applied.

Wrap the Casket

If you want a casket that creates an impact, consider having the casket wrapped. This is a technique used for cars and trucks and now, caskets. The great thing about wraps is that they are printed and then applied so the design can be of just about anything the family wishes. It could be a complete design of flowers or a beautiful beach and sunrise scene. And don’t let the name fool you. After the process is complete the casket looks more like it has been hand-painted than “wrapped”.

Create a Custom Casket

If you would like the opportunity to customize every aspect of the casket from the color of the exterior to the inside fabric, and hardware, you are in luck. You can find many providers today offering a customized option that lets you personalize things like the:

Top, middle, and bottom exterior colors

Interior fabric type and color

Head panel design

Hardware such as the swing bar

By being able to select each design element, you can create a truly customized and one-of-a-kind piece for your loved one.

Custom Shaped Casket

While this option is going to cost you, there are artisans that create custom caskets of all shapes and designs. Although sometimes not practical, these caskets can definitely add a little wow to any funeral service . Some designs that have been created include guitars, cars, and even fish.

While most people still prefer a traditional casket for services at funeral homes in Batavia, NY, some families may desire a little something more unique. You can see that, for these families, the options are almost limitless to what they can create (or have created).

Choosing the Right Type of Urn

Mon, 08 Aug 2022 00:00:00 GMT

When you are looking for an urn for your loved one’s remains, you may be overwhelmed with all of the choices. While there are many styles and designs to choose from, essentially the type you decide on will be determined by how you plan on handling the remains. Providers of cremation services in Oakfield, NY explain the different types so that you can decide which one you should consider.

Releasing the Ashes

If you plan on scattering your loved one’s ashes after their cremation, you should look at scattering urns. These urns have a top that makes it easy for the release of the ashes. After the ashes have been scattered, many families choose to keep mementos, flowers, or other meaningful items in the urn.

Placing the Urn in a Columbarium

When looking for an urn that will be placed in a columbarium niche, you need to make certain you know the measurements of the niche. Knowing the height, width, and depth of the niche will ensure the urn you choose fits nicely.

Another consideration when choosing an urn for a columbarium is to check with the cemetery and see if they have any policies on what is, or isn’t, allowed. Some cemeteries may have restrictions on certain designs or materials.

Ground Burial

Placing an urn in the ground for burial may cause the earth around it to sink. To prevent this, urn containers and urn vaults are used. These vessels house the urn inside to preserve the urn as well as help support the ground from sinking. When choosing an urn for in-ground burial, you need to keep the dimensions in mind so that the urn container or urn vault can fit around it nicely.

Natural or Water Burial

Biodegradable urns are becoming a popular choice as more people are choosing to have their ashes released back into nature. While the scattering of remains is allowed in most public places (as long as you have the correct permits), biodegradable urns allow the actual urn to be placed at the site. Since these urns are organic and designed from materials meant to naturally break down when they come into contact with water or soil, families have many options of where they can lay the urn to rest.

Keepsake Urns

If several family members would each like an urn with a portion of the remains, then keepsake urns are your choice. These urns are typically smaller than regular display urns and allow several people to each have an urn of their own.

Display Urn

The most common type of urn is the display urn, and it is what you see in people’s homes. These urns can be found in materials such as glass, ceramic, wood, and metal and come in a variety of styles, colors, and designs. They offer ways to be personalized such as being engraved and can also come in unique shapes or themes.

Final Thoughts

Selecting an urn after your loved one’s cremation services in Oakfield, NY can be daunting. To make the process easier, first, start with the type of urn you will need. Once that is decided, you can then move on to things like color and design. If you need help selecting the perfect urn for your loved one, feel free to call us anytime as we are always here to help.

How To Do a Virtual Funeral? Etiquette 101

Mon, 01 Aug 2022 00:00:00 GMT

Virtual funeral services have become increasingly more popular ever since the COVID-19 pandemic. While it does not replace being able to attend a service in person, it’s a wonderful option that not only allows for socially distancing but also provides those who aren’t able to travel an opportunity to attend. While you may have an understanding of funeral etiquette at in-person services held in funeral homes in Oakfield, NY, virtual funeral etiquette may be something you are less familiar with.

Proper etiquette while attending a virtual service is important to show respect for the deceased as well as the grieving family. To ensure you practice good etiquette, keep reading to learn what to do (as well as what not to do) for a virtual service.

Show Up On Time

Just as it is rude to show up late in person, it is also considered rude to show up late virtually. Make sure you show up at least 10 minutes early. This will give you time to get settled, log in to whichever platform the service is being held on, and have the host allow you access.

Turn Your Camera On

Maybe for work Zoom meetings, you can get away with no camera and just the microphone, but for a virtual service, you want your camera to be turned on. Having your camera on shows that you are there and present to what is going on. If you have to leave your computer for a few minutes, you could turn your camera off, but make sure to turn it on as soon as you return.

Remember- You’re on Camera!

Having your camera on means you need to be conscious of what you are doing, and what else is going behind you. Make sure you are not doing anything distracting such as eating, writing notes, playing on your phone, or doing any other multitasking. Make sure your full focus is on the service.

To help attendees not get distracted, make sure your environment is free from things that may take the focus off the service and onto you. For example, your dog may be the cutest one in the world, but now is not the time for it to run in the room and jump up on your lap.

Mute Your Microphone

While you want your camera on so that the host and other attendees can see you, you want to make sure your microphone is on mute. Even if you are alone in your home and feel as if nothing will make any noise, it’s better to be safe than sorry. You don’t want to take the chance only to have your smartphone go off because of a notification you received.

Dress Appropriately

Just because you are not physically at the funeral home or church, you still need to dress like you are. And yes, this includes wearing pants! We have all known someone (or been that someone) in the Zoom meeting who is wearing work attire on the top but in shorts and flip-flops on the bottom. While it’s true that probably nobody would ever know, wearing full proper attire is just the right thing to do.

While many families are choosing to hold services in funeral homes in Oakfield, NY again since the pandemic has subsided a little, virtual services are not going anywhere. Making sure you practice proper etiquette will ensure you show respect and help make the service nicer for all who attend.

Virtual Funeral FAQ

How does Zoom work for a funeral?

Zoom is a video conferencing service that allows for people to attend funerals from remote locations. Typically, a funeral home will have a camera set up in the room where the service is being held and attendees will join the service through their computer or phone. This allows people who are unable to travel to funeral services due to distance or illness to still be able to participate in the service.

What is the best way to livestream a funeral?

Livestreaming a funeral can be done in a few ways. One way is to use a service like Facebook Live or YouTube. Another way is to use a site like Ustream or Twitch, which are more geared towards live streaming events.

When livestreaming a funeral, it’s important to keep in mind the following: Make sure you have a good internet connection. Test the livestream before the funeral starts. Plan for technical difficulties. Be respectful of those who are attending the funeral and who may not want to be seen on camera.

How much does zoom cost for funeral?

Livestreaming services like Zoom can cost up to $5,000 for a three-hour service. That price typically includes the use of a 50-person conference room and support from technical staff. However, many funeral homes are now offering livestreaming as part of their services at no additional cost. So it’s always worth checking with your funeral home to see what they offer.

Coping With Grief and Loss in a Healthy Way

Mon, 25 Jul 2022 00:00:00 GMT

Grief is a normal response to a loss we experience. In fact, grief is not only normal but also necessary. It is the way for our brains, and our hearts, to process and eventually accept our new reality. Healthy grieving doesn’t mean we forget; it simply means we can look at our loss with a sense of peace and acceptance rather than only pain. If you are struggling with your grief after your loved one’s cremation services in Elba, NY , here are some tips to help you grieve in a healthy way.

Practice Self-Care

Although taking care of yourself during this time might seem like the furthest thing on your mind, ensuring both your mental and physical wellness is looked after needs to be a priority. How do you do this?

Nutrition– Take care of yourself by making sure you are eating enough and eating healthy foods. If you don’t feel like preparing meals, look into having meals delivered that you can simply reheat in a microwave or oven. Also, make sure to get plenty of water each day and stay away from sugary drinks and alcohol.
Physical Activity– Get up and get moving. You may feel unmotivated at this time to get up and do anything but keeping your body active helps get your blood flowing and muscles working which not only helps your body feel better, but it also actually helps your mind think more clearly. So get up and go for a walk, take a yoga class, clean the house, rake the yard…just anything that will get you up and moving.
Mentally– Your mental health is extremely important at this time. Make sure you do things that nurture it. Go to a park and reconnect with nature, meditate, write regularly in a journal, start a gratitude list, do something nice for someone else, or talk to a spiritual leader.

Surround Yourself with Support

Losing someone we love is one of the most difficult things we experience. Don’t try and work through this alone. Surrounding yourself with support can truly help lift you up and help carry you through this process. Support can come from many sources.

Some include:

Talking with friends
Joining an in-person grief support group
Talking with a grief counselor one-on-one
Connect online with others who are grieving with an online group
Be open to accepting support from other sources when offered

If you are not one to normally open up and share your emotions, accepting and leaning on this support may feel difficult in the beginning. Just trust that it is helping and continue with the process.

Other Considerations

There are a few other things you can do during this time to help you that you may not even think of. First, choose your entertainment carefully. Movies and T.V. shows can intensity already strong emotions.

Next, don’t feel guilty if you happen to laugh or find joy in something. This will get easier as time passes, but the feelings of guilt may stop you from letting yourself feel the good emotions; don’t let it. Know that your loved one would want you to feel joy and happiness again.

Lastly, accept and acknowledge your feelings, Know that they are valid, and accept and deal with them as they come. If it’s the sadness you feel, don’t be afraid to cry. If anger is showing up, let it out by going for a run or hitting some baseballs at the batting cages.

If you need more resources to help with your grief after your loved one’s cremation services in Elba, NY, please reach out to us anytime as we are always here to help.

Help With Choosing a Casket

Mon, 18 Jul 2022 00:00:00 GMT

Buying a casket is not something we do on a normal basis. Because of this, this task can seem quite overwhelming. Even more so if you are having to select one because a loved one has passed away. Arranging services with funeral homes in Elba, NY can already seem overwhelming, and having to select the casket may just feel like too much. Don’t worry. We understand how you are feeling and are here to help ease some of your burdens.

Here are some of the most important things to keep in mind when choosing the casket.

Material of Casket

Caskets are typically available in wood and metal. Each material has its own set of properties making it unique. The type of material you choose will directly impact the cost of the casket.

For example, in the metal casket category, a steel casket will be less expensive than a bronze or copper casket. With wood caskets, oak and mahogany will typically run more expensive than pine or walnut.

Casket Design: Premade or Custom

If you are looking to stay within a certain lower-end budget, a premade casket design is the best option. These are premade images and artwork that can be added to an existing casket. There are options to have just a single image or the entire casket covered with a design. Families can choose anything from a simple sports logo to covering the entire casket with a design of flowers and anything in between.

If you have a little more money to spend and would like a completely unique item, consider a custom-made casket. These caskets are most often made from scratch and can be made in almost any shape you like. Families have had caskets made to look like guitars, clouds, sports cars, and more.

Special Features and Compartments

Other than adding a design on the outside of the casket, there are several other ways you can personalize this item. Some caskets include things like memory drawers or other secret compartments where you can place messages, or other items to be buried with your loved one.

You can also customize things on the exterior such as the corners and handles on the casket, as well as have things like embellishments and ornamental medallions added.

Helpful Tips

Other than things to consider when it comes to the actual casket features, there are a few best practices that can also make this process a little easier. Things like:

Don’t do it alone– Take a close friend or family member with you when shopping. This will help give you extra support and can also serve as a second opinion.
Set a budget– Before you even start the process, set a budget. The feelings of grief you are experiencing may cause you to make decisions of emotion rather than logic. This may get you a great-looking casket but may also end up causing you to spend way more than you had intended.
Take a break– If you are shopping and feeling overwhelmed, take a break. Go to a restaurant with your friend and have some lunch, go for a walk in the park, or drive around for a little bit…just get away and clear your head.

Making arrangements with funeral homes in Elba, NY can already seem daunting. When selecting the casket, keep these factors and tips in mind and hopefully, it will make this process a little more bearable.

What Is a Casting Ceremony?

Mon, 11 Jul 2022 00:00:00 GMT

A casting ceremony, or ash scattering ceremony as they are also called, is a wonderful tribute to hold for your loved one after their cremation services in Batavia, NY. These differ from memorial services and are another option families often choose.

While either one of these services is a lovely way to pay respects to your loved one, you may find that one is a better fit for your family than the other. We are going to go over what you need to know about a casting ceremony so that you can decide if it’s right for you.

Casting Ceremony vs Memorial Service

Both a casting ceremony and memorial service may include things such as:

A welcome/ introduction
Prayers or poems
Music
Quotes
Eulogy
Closing/acknowledgments

The main difference is that a memorial service is typically held in a church, funeral home, or other inside location. Also, the remains of the deceased may be displayed in an urn in the front of the room. After the service, the remains may be taken home by a family member or there may be a private scattering ceremony for family members only.

A casting ceremony is normally held in the location the remains will be released. Guests will be invited, and the services will take place. After the services, or as part of the service, the remains will be released. This can be done by one or more family members or guests may even take part.

Where to Hold the Ceremony

The ceremony can be held where the family chooses as long as it is legal to do so. Most public lands allow the scattering of ashes but have rules that need to be followed. When planning a ceremony, always check with local authorities to see what needs to be done to ensure all regulations and laws are being followed.

With that being said, some of the most popular places to hold these ceremonies include:

National or state park
Local or city park
On a family member’s private land
On the ocean

How to Release the Ashes

When the time comes to release the ashes, do so carefully. If they are to be released into the air, take note of which way the wind is blowing to avoid any ashes being blown on any people or objects.

As far as who releases the ashes, this should be decided before the event. Some popular options are:

Having only the ceremony leader release all the ashes
Allowing the immediate family to take turns releasing the remains
Providing a decorative scoop and allowing those guests who wish to take a turn

Other Considerations

Just as with a memorial service, you will need to choose someone to lead the ceremony. Also, since you will most likely be doing this at a remote location, you will need to make sure you have things that you may need such as chairs, a speaker, a microphone, and even things like sunscreen, umbrellas, etc.

Holding a service after your loved one’s cremation services in Batavia, NY helps you begin the healing process. While some families may prefer a memorial service, other families may find extra comfort in releasing their loved one’s ashes back into nature. Whichever you decide, know that we are here to help you in any way you may need.

Don’t Make These 3 Mistakes When Selecting a Headstone

Mon, 04 Jul 2022 00:00:00 GMT

A headstone, or grave marker as they are sometimes called, is an important tribute that will mark the grave of your loved one for years to come. When making this important decision, there are many things to consider and mistakes that should be avoided. While funeral homes in Batavia, NY as well as other providers of headstones can help guide you in your selection, we are going to cover the top three mistakes made so you will be well aware of them and what to do to avoid them.

1. Not Knowing the Rules and Regulations of the Cemetery

Before you start shopping for a headstone, it is important you fully understand any rules the cemetery has in place regarding headstones. Depending on the cemetery, there may be headstone size limits or material restrictions. Make sure you reach out to the cemetery or local monument providers to ensure you are aware of any rules you need to abide by. It would be a shame to select the perfect headstone only to have the cemetery tell you they cannot install it.

2. Failing to Select the Right Material

Headstones can be found in a variety of different materials. Some of these materials include granite, marble, bronze, limestone, steel iron, wood, sandstone, and more. Each material has its own advantages and disadvantages. For example, sandstone can be cut into various sizes and shapes making it very customizable. However, when moisture gets between the layers, its beauty can diminish.

When you are selecting your headstone, keep your climate in mind and make sure the material is durable for that specific region. Your local monument provider or funeral home can give you more information on which material would be best for your area.

3. Disregarding Setting a Budget

Not setting a budget before you start the shopping process is a huge mistake. Headstones can range from a simple stone for around $300 to more elaborate pieces running $2500 and more. Make sure you take some time, sit down and go over your budget. Set a firm limit and stick with it.

When you begin your search, inform the headstone providers about the range and limit you have set so that they show you only options within that range. When you are shopping, you are most likely going to be emotional, and it is very easy to get carried away and want to get your loved one the best and the biggest…even if it’s out of your budget. While this is a nice thought and completely understandable, it can cause your feelings of regret later.

If you don’t think you will be able to stick to the budget, take a friend or family member with you to help keep you on track.

Final Thoughts

With so many options of material, shapes, and engravings for headstones, it can be a daunting task to select just the right one. While you are also making arrangements with funeral homes in Batavia, NY for your loved one’s services, you may start to feel overwhelmed. This is completely normal and understandable. Just remember that the monument providers are there to help you so don’t be afraid to ask questions and share your concerns. And of course, we are always here to help so feel free to reach out anytime.

Choosing a Cremation Services Provider

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 14:00:00 GMT

Look For These Things When Consideration a Cremation Provider

With cremation services in Oakfield, NY. becoming a more popular choice, more and more cremation providers are popping up every year. While the majority of these companies are reputable and trustworthy, some may not be what they seem. It is important to look into any cremation provider you are considering and make sure they can be trusted with your loved one’s care. Here are a few key factors to keep in mind when making this choice.

How Many Years Have They Been in Business?

The amount of time a provider has been in business can often times be a good indicator of how they run their business. While this is not always the case, businesses that have a lengthier past normally do so by running the business in an honest and reputable way.

That is not to say that a provider that has not been in business that long can’t be an amazing company. If you find a provider that has everything else you are looking for, it might be worth overlooking how many years they (or don’t have) have behind them.

Does the Package Price Include Everything?

Many times, you may see a provider advertise a package for a very low price, but once you start adding on things that need to be included, the price is much higher than the original. Sure, packages may have additional items or which services you can add on, but if there are hidden costs or the provider doesn’t seem upfront about additional charges, you are better off finding another company.

When you are dealing with a reputable provider, they will make sure you understand everything that is, and is not, included and help you select the most appropriate package for your needs.

What is Their Cremation Process?

This question is important to know as it deals with not only the actual cremation process, but the receiving, identifying, and holding of the body until the cremation. Make sure you understand things like:

What are their polices and processes when it comes to safeguarding the personal identity of the deceased?
What is their code of ethics?
Do they have a checks and balances system to ensure all paperwork is completed correctly? If so, what is it?
What happens after the cremation? How are the remains returned to the family? How are you notified?

Making sure you understand the steps they take can help you decide if they give enough attention and detail to the process and your loved one.

Ask for a Tour

Arrange to meet with the provider and ask for a tour of their facility . While you may not be allowed to go into every area, you can get an idea of the overall cleanliness and standards they enforce. This also gives you a chance to meet with staff and make sure you get along and feel comfortable with them.

Taking time to do a little checking into the provider you choose for your cremation services in Oakfield, NY. can save you a lot of trouble in the future. If you would like to learn how we ensure the utmost respect and care of your loved one while in our services , call or come by anytime. We are happy to answer any questions or concerns you may have.

Preplanning Your Funeral: 4 Common Mistakes to Avoid

Mon, 27 Jun 2022 13:48:00 GMT

Talking with funeral homes in Oakfield, NY . about preplanning your funeral arrangements is such an important thing that most people never do. While most everyone agrees that this is a good idea and should be done, the thought stops there. They never actually follow though and make the plans.

So, if you are actually in the stages of preplanning your services, congratulations, you are already way ahead of the game. However, since this is most likely a new situation for you, there may be some mistakes you will want to watch out for. We are going to cover some of the most common so that you can avoid them.

1. Not Telling Anyone

It’s great to make plans and have everything situated, but if nobody knows but you, it doesn’t really do a lot of good. Many people make their plans and never share them with others. After you have finalized your plans, make sure to inform family members or friends. Let them know what your plans are, who you made plans with, what is covered, and what, if anything, still would need to be decided.

2. Not Setting a Budget

Funeral service arrangements can add up quickly. Before you begin, sit down and decide on a firm budget that you feel comfortable with. When talking with funeral homes and other providers make sure you share this budget with them so that they help you stay within that range. Knowing your budget ahead of time can save you from a lot of regret later.

3. Thinking Only About Your Needs

You may feel that since these are arrangements for your final services, your needs are the only ones that matter. While it is true, you need to plan services that address your wishes and your needs, you should take your loved one’s needs into consideration as well.

For example, perhaps you are not really that interested in having a viewing or a wake. But have you thought about how your friends and family might feel? Maybe they would really benefit from services like this as many people find comfort in them.

When making your arrangements, don’t forget that, while these services are for the deceased, they are just as much for the ones who are left behind to mourn.

4. Being Scared to Go Against Tradition

When planning your celebrant services , don’t be afraid to plan what you truly want. For example, if you love sunflowers and want the space to be filled with them, then so be it. If you want the music selection to include songs from Jimmy Buffet, then make it known.

Don’t let the fact that what you want may not be “typical” or “traditional” stop you. In fact, guests may really appreciate the service being a little unconventional and full of your personality.

While preplanning your arrangements with funeral homes in Oakfield, NY. can be intimidating at first, know you are doing something many others never follow through with. Find confidence in knowing that you are taking responsibility and taking action. If you need more guidance, feel free to reach out to us anytime as we are always happy to help or visit us on our location .

Ways to Honor Your Loved One in a Digital Age

Mon, 13 Jun 2022 13:34:00 GMT

It used to be that announcing your loved one’s passing was done entirely by writing an obituary and having it printed in the local newspaper. While that is still a very common practice today, many people are also turning to digital ways of remembering and honoring their loved one. With everyone having such a social presence online it just makes sense to include this space. When you are talking to providers of cremation services in Elba, NY. about your loved one’s services, don’t overlook the importance of a pre-plan online tribute and the healing it can help provide.

Personal Social Media Accounts

Most likely your loved one had at least one social media account. These accounts can be used as a wonderful memorial. Friends can visit the account, share memories and photos, comment, and support one another through this difficult time.

There are a few things to note about these accounts. What you can access, and the way you can access the account will differ depending on the platform as well as any settings your loved one might have made.

For example, with Facebook and Instagram it is possible for a user to designate another person as a “legacy”. This person named will have the ability to log in and have full functions of the account. Other platforms may keep the account active and allow people to post to the account, but not allow other functions such as deleting posts, commenting or posting as the user.

To know what functions the social media platform can offer, you will need to contact the specific platform directly. You may also need a copy of the death certificate, your identification, proof of relationship, or other documents.

Memorial Websites

If you cannot access your loved one’s social media accounts, or you would like an option that typically has more functions, then you would want to look into a memorial website. These are becoming increasingly popular and can be found to include various functions. Some of the options they feature can include:

Guest Book – This is just like a paper guest book but it’s online. Guests visit the site and can write their tribute in the book.
Virtual Services– You can use the site to livestream the funeral or memorial service so that those who cannot attend physically can still attend virtually. This is also a god option if you ware wanting to save money as hosting a virtual service can be less expensive.
Invitations– These sites can offer functions that allow you to invite guests and have the RSVP directly on the site. This helps in keeping track with the number of guests.

You may find sites that offer one or all of these features. Typically, the more features, the more expensive. If you are wanting to save money, you can choose a simple site with just a guest book as these sites are normally free.

Final Thoughts

While you may still want to have an obituary printed in the paper after your loved one’s cremation services in Elba, NY, including a way to pay tribute to your loved one online is a nice addition. With the internet providing a way for everyone to come together, no matter what their location , it creates a supportive space for people to connect and pay tribute to your loved one.

Help With Choosing Funeral Flowers

Mon, 06 Jun 2022 13:25:00 GMT

When a loved one passes away, you may be in charge of talking with funeral homes in Elba, NY. and making the arrangements for their services. This can be a dauting task as there are many decisions you will need to make. One of these choices being selecting what flowers to use. While you want to choose flowers that are visually appealing, you may want to go a little deeper and select them based on their meaning as well.

Flowers can carry meanings based on their color, or what type the flower is. If you are not a flower expert, no worries. We are going to cover some of the most common funeral flowers and their meanings to help make this choice a little less stressful.

Meanings Based on Color

You are probably familiar with some of the meanings that colors can hold. Such as red roses signify love. Let’s take a look at some of the other colors.

White– White flowers represent purity, elegance, and peace
Yellow– Use yellow flowers to express warmth, friendship, and hope
Pink – Grace, compassion, and innocence are often associated with pink flowers
Red– Red flowers express strength, love, passion, and devotion
Purple – Purple flowers are associated with respect, sorrow, admiration, and sympathy

Meanings Based on Type

Other than color, flowers express certain meanings based on what type the flower is. Some of the common flowers and their meanings are:

Daises– Daises express peace and hope
Orchids– Orchids are often associated with hope, peace and courage
Irises– These flowers can represent faith, courage, and wisdom
Snapdragons– Graciousness and strength are often expressed by these flowers
Tulips– Tulips can represent love, peace, and hope
Daffodils– These flowers can express renewal

Ways to Incorporate the Flowers

Adding flowers to funeral services is a lovely way to enhance the space visually as well as show respect for your loved one. Flowers can be used in a variety of ways including:

Being displayed during the wake at the funeral home or other chosen location
Used to decorate the grave
Draped over the casket
Arranged into the shape of a cross or a heart and used as a display
Other type of displays and décor such as standing sprays, baskets, and wreaths

Other Considerations

While these are general meanings of flowers based on their color and type, it is important to note that various cultures may attach different meanings. If you are unsure if a flower type or color is appropriate, make sure to each out to a knowledgeable source and check.

Also, don’t forget to take into consideration any favorite flowers the deceased might have had. Even if it’s not a “typical” funeral flower, don’t be afraid to fill the room with their favorite pick. If they didn’t have a favorite flower but had a favorite color, you

could use flowers in that hue to decorate the space.

It can be overwhelming when you are making arrangements with funeral homes in Elba, NY. Knowing a little more about the meanings of flowers can help make at least one decision a little easier. Just keep things in mind such as color, type, as well as what flowers your loved one adored, and you will be sure to find the perfect choice were here to help check out some resources here.

Popular Locations for Scattering Ashes and What You Need to Know

Mon, 23 May 2022 13:17:00 GMT

One reason people choose cremation services in Batavia, NY. is because they like the idea of having their ashes scattered someplace special afterwards. The locations people select vary from a family backyard to a national park, or even the ocean. While most places allow the scattering of ashes, there are some rules and regulations families need to be aware of before preforming this act for their loved one.

Scattering Ashes in the Ocean

If your loved one adored the ocean or the beach, then scattering their ashes out into the ocean may be the perfect send off. While this can be a beautiful way to say goodbye and is allowed in most oceans there are some specific rules. Some of these include:

Any container that the remains are in must be biodegradable and not harmful to sea life in any way
If any flowers accompany the container, they must break down quickly and also not be harmful to any sea life
While typically no permit is required before this action is done, the family must notify the United States Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) within 30 days of scattering
The scattering must take place at least three nautical miles away from any land

Ash Scattering at a National Park

The United States has some amazing national parks and the beauty they hold makes a serene space for scattering ashes. Most national parks require just a simple permit before scattering the ashes. These permits can be obtained online or by calling the specific national park and talking with a park ranger. Some other things to consider after you have the permit are:

The ashes need to be scattered away from developed areas such as campgrounds
No marker of any kind is allowed to be left at the site
Many times the group number is limited to six people
The group must adhere to all other general park regulations
You cannot bury the ashes

If you are not able to travel to a national park, state parks are nice options as well. The rules are just about the same as with the national parks, making it easy to get a permit and preform the scattering. If you are in a national forest, however, scattering of remains is not permitted.

Scattering Ashes on Private Land

The rules for scattering ashes on private land are pretty simple; you must get the permission of the landowner. This is non-negotiable. If you are caught scattering ashes without permission, you can face fines and possible jail time with charges of trespassing. Ask the landowner. If the landowner says yes, then ask what else, if any rules they would like you to follow. If they say, no, then find another place.

Final Thoughts

With cremation services in Batavia, NY. and all around the U.S, rising year after year, you may see more an more ash scattering ceremonies taking place. It is important for families to follow the rules and regulations of the locations they choose so that this practice is allowed for years to come have some pre-planning now.

Basic Funeral Service Etiquette

Mon, 16 May 2022 13:04:00 GMT

Most people, if they are lucky, have not had to attend many funeral services in their lifetime. If you have not attended one before but now have the need to, you may be unsure how to act, what to wear, or what other etiquette you should adhere to. Don’t worry, we are going to go over the main things you need to know when attending a funeral service at funeral homes in Batavia, NY., or any other location.

What Do I Wear?

This is often the most common concern as you want to look respectful, but also not too overdressed. As far as appropriate attire for women, a dress or blouse and slacks are fine. Keep jewelry to a minimum with classic pieces that aren’t too flashy. Imagine you are attending a church service ad dress for that.

For men, a nice dress shirt and tie with slacks, or a suit are good choices. Also, as with women, keep watches and other jewelry to a minimum and choose pieces that aren’t flashy.

The classic color choice of outfits for both men and women is black, but any darker, more somber color will do. Some of these colors could be navy, grey, or other neutral tones.

Where Do I Sit?

When finding a place to sit, keep in mind that typically, the right side of the room is where relatives of the deceased sit. On the left side is where people such as friends, co-workers, and acquaintances sit. Once you know which side to choose, take a seat somewhere behind the first few rows. Those rows are reserved for the immediate family and close relatives.

If there is no seating available, you can stand. Also, be aware if seating is limited to give up your seat to someone who may need to sit such as an elderly or disabled guest.

Should I Bring My Kids?

If you have young children, it is normally better to leave them with a babysitter or relative while you attend the services. No matter how well behaved they are, children seem to fuss at the most inopportune times. If you have to bring your children and they begin to cry or fuss, take them out of the room immediately and wait to come back only when they are quiet again.

How Early Should I Arrive?

It’s a good idea to allow yourself time to arrive to the funeral services no less than 15-20 minutes early. This will give you enough time to find parking and take your seat. If you do happen to arrive late, do not interrupt the service tying to find a place to sit. Simply find a seat near the back of the room and quietly sit down.

What About Cell Phones?

Obviously, you will need to ensure your cell phone is off as to not disrupt the services you choose. Also, it’s best to not have your cell phone out at all. It can be very disrespectful to be scrolling Instagram or texting with a friend during this time. Leave your cell phone in your purse, pocket, or even better, the car.

Final Thoughts

Remember, it’s very common to be nervous about going into a situation you never have before. When you are attending services arranged with funeral homes in Batavia, NY., knowing a little of what is expected of you can help you feel more assured see the news and events section to have more information you need about funeral etiquette.

Your Guide to Cremation Jewelry

Mon, 09 May 2022 13:02:00 GMT

After a loved one passes, one of the things we miss is having them close to us. That is why many families choose cremation services in Oakfield, NY . for their loved one. With cremation, families have several options to retain their loved ones remains and keep them close. One of these ways is with cremation jewelry.

What is Cremation Jewelry?

Cremation jewelry is the same as any other type of jewelry in that it comes in pieces such as necklaces, rings, bracelets and more. It often looks like typical jewelry as well. What makes these pieces special is that there is a place to add some of your loved one’s remains.

Cremation Necklace

A cremation necklace most often times consists of a chain with a pendant attached. This pendant can be found in several designs such as a heart or a cross and is much like a locket in that it opens. Inside there is a secure pocket area that remains can be added into. Many people like the option of the necklace because the pendant with the remains lays close to their heart.

Bracelets for Remains

Other than necklaces, you can also find cremation jewelry bracelets. These pieces typically can be found to have a charm, or charms, attached. These charms act as the locket and hold the remains. You can find many styles of bracelets and since more charms can be added, you can add more or different remains.

Rings to Hold Remains

If you love rings then a cremation ring would be the way to go. These rings are typically made with a jewel or other decorative stone that opens to reveal the locket for the remains. They can be found in a variety of styles and designs so you are sure to find your perfect one.

How Do I Find Cremation Jewelry?

You may or may not be able to find this type of jewelry locally. However, there are a ton of places you can find it online. You can perform a Google search and find bigger companies that create it, or, if you prefer to find a smaller business artisan, you could search sites like Etsy.

How Do I Put the Remains in the Jewelry?

Most pieces of cremation jewelry will come with instructions and a small funnel you can use to transfer the remains to the jewelry. If you have any questions at all, reach out to the company before purchasing the product.

Bring the Whole Family Closer

Since each piece of jewelry just takes a small amount of remains, there is enough for several members of the family to all join in. Each person could get a piece depending on their style and taste, or everyone could get the same piece and match. This makes a really nice way to unite and bond the family after a loss.

After your loved one’s cremation services in Oakfield, NY., choosing what to do with their remains can be a tough thing to decide. If you are wanting to keep them close and feel them with you, then cremation jewelry might be an option for you see our resources contact us now .

Which Service Should I Choose?

Mon, 02 May 2022 12:39:00 GMT

When a loved one passes away, one of the things you will need to do is talk with funeral homes in Oakfield, NY ., about services. Other than traditional funeral services, there are also options such a memorial service or you can choose to hold a celebration of life event. Which type of service you choose can depend on your religious affiliations, any last wishes of the deceased, as well as family preference. Let’s take a look at each of these a little closer and see when each event might be most appropriate.

Traditional Funeral Service

A traditional funeral service takes place just days after the deceased has passed. The body will be in a casket and be present at the time of the service. These services are typically quiet, solemn, and religious in nature with a priest or other religious leader leading the services. Since the service is religious, they are most often held in a church or other religious building.

The service will follow a format and often include prayers being recited, hymns being sung, and eulogies given. The service takes place right before the burial so after the service, if the burial is public, those guests who wish to attend will drive to the cemetery for the burial service .

Memorial Service

Memorial services can be like a traditional funeral service or they can be more secular. The biggest difference is that with a memorial service, the body of the deceased has already been buried or cremated so it is not present at the time of the service. Because of this, families have much more time and flexibility to plan the services. Also, since these services can be more secular, the families have more options as to where they can hold the event.

Typically, these services follow much the same format that a traditional service does in that there may be songs sung, passages or other words read, and eulogies given. Since these can be secular in nature, instead of being led by a religious leader, they will be led by a master of ceremonies or celebrant.

Celebration of Life Event

Celebration of life events are very different from either of the other two services. While traditional and memorial services follow a pre-determined format, celebration of life events are more open and don’t really have a structure to follow. You can have these flow any way you wish.

Other than no formal structure, the biggest difference between this and the other services is that the mood of a celebration of life service is happy, joyful, and hopeful. It is a time to truly celebrate the deceased’s life, passions, personality, and accomplishments.

Since these events are much more like a party, you may find them being held at places like someone’s backyard, a local bar, park, or hotel. They can truly be held just about anywhere.

In Conclusion

The type of services you decide to have for your loved one after they pass may depend on many factors including their religious beliefs, any last wishes they might have had, as well as how much flexibility and time you need to plan the services. If you are unsure of which service would be best, when talking to funeral homes in Oakfield, NY., let them know your concerns and they can help you decide on which is the best choice contact us now .

4 Reasons Why Families Choose Cremation

Mon, 25 Apr 2022 12:20:00 GMT

Every year more people are choosing cremation services in Elba, NY., over traditional burials. There are many reasons attributing to this rise in popularity. From the simplicity of the cremation process, to having more options where to lay the remains, cremation has advantages that appeal to a broad range of people. Let’s dive into some of the top reasons people might choose cremation.

Cremation is Economical

With traditional burials come more expenses. One of those expenses, for example, is the embalming process and preparation of the body. Other costs can include a casket, graveside service , and a headstone, all of which can make traditional burials cost 40-50% more than cremation.

It Can be Less Stressful

When a loved one passes away, they leave behind a life of bills, houses, pets, and more that all need to be taken care of. Dealing with the added stress of planning funeral services and the burial can sometimes be just too much for some families to want to take on. Cremation can be a very easy process and allow the family to focus on addressing other issues.

Families Can Have More Time to Plan

With traditional funerals, the services need to be completed in a quick timeframe so that the body remains presentable. This can cause some families to have to rush the planning of the services. Because of this, the family may not be able to truly plan the service the way they would want. Also, because of this shorter timeframe, those who wish to attend the services but live out of town may not have ample travel time to attend.

With cremation being a quick process and the remains being able to be given back to the family in a timely manner, families can have much more time and flexibility to plan the perfect service. Whether it’s a memorial service, celebration of life event, or scattering the ashes, the family can take their time and plan the service several weeks out (or longer).

Keep Your Loved One Close

Cremation allows families to keep their loved one close and this can be a big advantage to many. Keeping them close can be done in a plethora of ways and it seems each year, more options are becoming available. Some of the options families can choose from include:

Keeping the remains in an urn in their home
Buying a piece of cremation jewelry that holds some of the remains
Having the ashes turned into diamond and use it in a piece of jewelry
Infusing the remains into a vinyl record
Getting a cremation tattoo where the tattoo ink is infused with the remains

These are just some of the ways people can choose to keep their loved one close after their cremation. There are many more ways that are both traditional and much more unconventional. With so many possibilities, it’s easy to see why this may appeal to so many people.

While some families still may prefer a traditional burial for their loved one, cremation services in Elba, NY. are definitely on the rise. With its many advantages, cremation can be the perfect choice some families check our testimonials and have the talk of a lifetime .

What You Can Expect at a Graveside Service

Mon, 18 Apr 2022 12:04:00 GMT

If you have had a close friend or family member pass away, and arrangements have been made with funeral homes in Elba, NY ., you may shortly be attending their graveside burial service . Along with feelings of loss and sadness, you may also feel anxiety if you have not had to attend a burial before. You may be nervous about what exactly happens and what, if anything, you are supposed to do. Don’t worry, we are going to ease a little of your anxiety by covering everything you need to know.

When is the Graveside Service?

Typically, with traditional funerals, the graveside service and burial take place directly after the funeral services. In this instance, after the funeral service, the funeral procession will drive from the location the service was held to the cemetery.

Not all graveside burials happen after funeral services. These events can be a stand-alone event or also take place before a memorial service.

How Do I Know If I Should Attend?

Some families may choose to restrict the graveside services to immediate family only. Other families may open it to the public, and still other families may choose something in between and invite family and close friends.

If the family wishes for it to be public, at the end of the funeral services, the officiant will invite guests to the graveside service and share directions to the cemetery.

Where Do I Sit or Stand at the Cemetery?

It’s always an awkward feeling when you are not quite sure where you should sit or stand. This can be especially true at a burial as you want to show the upmost respect for the family. A good rule of thumb is that if there are chars, wait to see if any are available before sitting down. These chairs are typically reserved for immediate family and anyone who may need a chair such as the elderly.

If there are still chairs available after everyone has been seated, you can most likely take a seat. If not, standing behind the chairs or where other guests are standing is fine.

Will I Need to Participate?

Depending on the deceased’s faith there may be times where the guests participate in the service. One example of this is with the shoveling of dirt. This is often found in the Jewish religion and you will see the family and then the guests approach a pile of dirt next to the grave and, using a shovel, scoop some dirt into the grave. This will continue until all the guests have had a turn. If you want to join in but still feel a little nervous, just watch what the people in front of you do and mimic their actions.

Other times when there might be participation is if the officiant of the service recites any call-and-response prayers. These normally require the guests to repeat or recite things as a group as part of the prayer. If you feel comfortable, feel free to join in. The same goes when it comes to any songs that are being sung by the guests as a group.

How Long is the Service?

Typically the graveside service is not very long. It normally consists of the officiant beginning the service with reciting prayers or reading a passage. Then a eulogy may be given and finally the body will be lowered into the ground.

After arrangements have been made with funeral homes in Elba, NY., for your loved one, attending the services are important to begin the healing process-try our grief and healing support . Don’t let the anxiety of not knowing what to expect stop you from attending these important events, join the news and events to keep updated.

Considerations When Choosing an Urn

Mon, 11 Apr 2022 11:42:00 GMT

With so many options of materials and decorative styles, choosing the right urn after your loved one’s cremation services in Batavia, NY. can be a dauting task. To help you make the best choice, there are a few things you should take into consideration. We are going to go over some of these things so that you can feel much more confident when choosing your urn weather for your traditional burial or green burial .

Choosing the Right Size

You may be surprised to know that urns come in different sizes with each having a different volume of space inside the urn which is measured in cubic inches. Most standard urns will have a volume of 200-250 cubic inches.

To determine how much volume you will need, you can typically allow for at least one cubic inch of space for every pound of body weight before cremation. So, for example, someone who was 160 pounds would need an urn with a volume of at least 160 cubic inches.

Selecting the Material

Urns can be found made from a variety of materials, each having its own set of advantages and disadvantages. The material you choose can depend on where you would like to place the urn, as well as what type of style you would like. A few of the most common types of materials used are:

Wood – Wooden urns can be made from many types of wood including, but not limited to, oak, walnut, cedar, pine, and maple. These urns are study and easy to clean with furniture polish and a soft cloth. One thing to watch for is to make sure the urn is not placed in constant direct sunlight as this can cause the urn to crack or fade over time.
Ceramic– An urn that is ceramic can come in several colors and decorative styles. They are also easy to clean with a soft, dry cloth. One drawback of ceramic urns is that they are very delicate so will need to be placed in a safe location where they wont get knocked over or broken.
Metal– If you are wanting an urn that is sturdy and will last for years to come, a metal urn is your best option. These urns are typically made from pewter, bronze, brass, copper, and even stainless steel.

Consider Your Budget

If you have a budget, make sure the price of the urn is within this budget. It’s easy to get carried away when looking at urns and be tempted to purchase one that is more expensive or out of your budget. Keep your budget in mind and know that, while you want to get a beautiful urn, you also don’t want to feel regret later down the line. If you feel you may need help sticking with your budget, take a friend to help you.

Final Thoughts

Choosing the right urn after your loved one’s cremation services in Batavia, NY. can be difficult, but by keeping a few things in mind, selecting the right one can be a little easier. Things such as knowing what size you need as well as which material would work best for your situation and placement will help you feel much more confident when starting the shopping process we’re here to help check out some resources we have .

Should I Choose a Green Burial?

Mon, 04 Apr 2022 11:26:00 GMT

When a loved one passes and you are talking with funeral homes in Batavia, NY. about arrangements, you will have several options of how you wish for your loved one to be laid to rest. One of these options is a green burial. Since this is a less common form of burial, you may not be sure exactly what it is or what all it entails. To help decide if this is a good option for your loved one, let’s take a closer look into this type of burial.

What is a Green Burial?

With a green burial, the body is not embalmed or prepared with any other chemicals and is allowed to remain in its natural state. This allows the area of the burial to remain free of chemicals and other foreign compounds and helps promote new plant life.

What is the Deceased Buried In?

With a green burial, the deceased is placed in a biodegradable coffin or simply wrapped in a shroud or other natural fiber fabric. The gravesite does not have a stone grave vault or any other grave liner. All of this allows the body to begin the process of returning to nature.

How are the Graves Marked?

Typically, green burial markers consist of a flat stone at the head of the site, a corner marker, or some other natural markers such as a native tree or plant. The family may also receive the GPS coordinates of the site so they may find it that way if no other marker is used.

Why Choose a Green Burial?

Although green burials may not be as commonly known as traditional burials , they are rising in popularity. Since they offer many benefits, more and more families are choosing this option. Some of these reasons people like this option are:

Helping reduce the use of hazard chemicals – With embalming fluids containing formaldehyde, a known carcinogen, many families like that the fact this fluid isn’t used, keeping people, and the environment, safer.
Less expensive– Since things like an elaborate casket, concrete grave vaults and embalming services are not needed with a green burial, the overall cost of this option can be much lower than that of a traditional burial.
It’s simple and natural– Many families are drawn to the simplicity of a green burial and find much beauty in the joining of their loved one with nature in this way.

Is a Green Burial the Right Choice?

Knowing a little more about green burials, you still may be unsure if it’s the right choice. A few things to keep in mind help you make this decision are:

Did your loved one have any last wishes? If your loved one wanted a traditional burial with the embalming process, you will need to follow their wishes.
Is this in line with their religious views? Does this type of burial go along with your loved one’s religious views? Some religions have very strict protocol when it comes to burials and how they should be done. If you are at all unsure, check with a local religious leader.
How does the rest of the family feel? While you can’t please everybody, it would be nice is most of the family was on board with this choice. Talk with your family and see how everyone feels about this option.

While making arrangements for your loved one with funeral homes in Batavia, NY. is never easy, understanding what your options are can help reduce some of the anxiety. Knowing about green burials a little more, you can now decide if it’s the right choice for your loved one call us or visit us and tour our facilities now.

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